The better you get at HEALTHY NO for you, your pets, your family, and in life, the more everyone WINS!
Most people I work with as a vet, helping their animals, or as a healer, helping the humans become all of who they can be, are awful at healthy no. This is a problem, because a healthy no is absolutely essential in creating a life that is functional, that is harmonious, and that fills your cup to overflowing.
Without a healthy no, you simply can’t create, express, and maintain any kind of healthy boundaries for your self (internally, externally), or with your pets, family, friends, and communities. I used to be terrible at healthy no – especially with myself. And you do have to start with yourself. You have to work out the things that you are doing, or allowing in your life that are not serving you (or in some cases actively harming you). Then you need to work out how to say no to them!
For you, internally, you have to discover what things you are doing that are harmful. They might be addictive patterns – of behaviour, foods, activities (social media? doom scrolling?) or substances like alcohol or drugs. They might be avoiding exercise and meditation.
So a good, strong, honest sefl-audit is a good starting point. Then you simply have to give YOURSELF a good dose of healthy no. You probably won’t like it at first. It’ll be uncomfortable, you’ll have feelings, you’ll be challenged. You’ll have to face all the things you’ve been avoiding, suppressing or denying with these behaviours.
Once you make a start with yourself, you’ll be in a stronger place, and more aligned, more congruent. Then you can reach out and start expressing healthy no with your pets. That’ll be a good challenge, because I can guarantee that there will be pushback. Sad puppy dog eyes! Manipulative behaviours. Every doggy trick they can think of to try and make you weaken.
Good things happen when you stay strong. Your animals will accept a healthy no if you are gently determined . And you know that it’ll make a real, beneficial impact for them when you do. And then you can reach out and start expressing healthy no with your human family, friends, at work, etc. This will have all sorts of benefits over time.
Getting over the ‘healthy no’ hump.
Like most things that make a real positive impact in life, healthy no takes time, effort, and application. I have never met any being (including myself) who didn’t push back at healthy no at first. Part of the process is meeting that, holding firm, being determined.
You also need to know that it may take weeks or even months of healthy no before you all reap the benefits. It’s not a quick fix. It’s a structural, deep, wonderful way to enhance life, increase wellbeing, and grow strong healthy resilience. Give it a go! Like with all things, start small, get solid, then do the next thing, and the next!
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Here’s a short video of me discussing this topic.
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